We've been working hard at Together Better Stronger to regroup, reorganize, and re-energize, and I think you're going to LOVE the changes that are happening. We're working on updating and overhauling the website, re-energizing the blog, and developing some incredible new course offerings. Told you I had EXCITING news to share! But first, some context.
People often see couples counseling (or any kind of mental health or relationship help) as a "last resort". Even in our enlightened and progressive era, there is still incredible stigma and shame around getting help for anything that is seen as an "above the neck" problem. Too often, stigma and shame keep people away from sources of life-saving help and healing. Make no mistake, the barriers are real. And together, we have to break them down.
That's a true facepalm moment! Bad enough when it's your car, but tragic when it's your marriage. It's an act of great courage for an individual to seek help for a mental health concern, or for a couple to seek help for relationship issues . No joke. It takes guts.
More often than not, by the time I see a couple in my therapy office, they are in great distress. Many are on the brink of divorce, and have been suffering for years. It's so sad! Even worse, in the past 20+ years there have been times (thankfully not that many!) when it turns out I only have one session with a couple... and in that session one person delivers a message like, "I just made this appointment so I could tell you I'm leaving."
We call that a 'drive by'. And holy wow, that's harsh. So what starts as "couples counseling" quickly shifts to individual therapy with a focus on helping the spouse who was 'dropped off' at therapy figure out how to manage through a divorce. Sadly, that's what can happen when couples wait and wait and wait and hope something will change -- somehow -- but don't seek the right kind of help in time.
Our goal is to equip couples like you with a solid road map (or more likely a GPS guided app!), and to teach important relationship skills and provide encouragement along the way so that year by year your marriage or life partnership keeps getting better and better. Corny, but true!
So keep a lookout for more exciting news and updates coming soon to your inbox and on this blog. And if you're inclined, please visit the Together Better Stronger Facebook page facebook.com/togetherbestronger and "like" our page, share our stuff, and start commenting and let's get some discussion going around these issues! I love to share articles and updates with you, and want to know what you want to know more about. So send me an email and let me know (there's a handy form below!)
The more we engage together, the better likelihood that folks will find courage to seek the help they need, and feel more supported in doing so! And ultimately, the result will be healthier individuals, more solid couples, more balanced kids, and better functioning families! A lofty goal, yes, but oh so incredibly worthy of our efforts, don't you think? I sure do.
All my best,
Dr. Beth Schmit
Together Better Stronger